Sunday, November 9, 2008

Love Dare--Day 16--Love Intercedes

And I am finally on to Day 16--Love Intercedes. Yes, still behind, but coming along. Be sure to visit Chelle for all the participants and their comments, how they are faring in their own "Love Dare".

The verse and dare for this day are:

Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers......3 John:2

and the dare:

Begin praying for your children's heart. Pray for three specific areas where you would desire for God to work in their lives and your relationship with them.

When I first read this, I thought to myself: "Oh, this will be simple! I pray for my children always!" But then, reread--3 specific areas--just 3--which are the 3 most important areas in which I want God to work in their lives and in my relationship with them.

I cannot change my children, as much as I may try. They are each unique individuals, just as I am, each of us with our little quirks and tendencies.

Do I do things that they wish I would change? Yes, I do! Do they do things that I wish they would change? Yes, they do!

Have I asked them to change, nagged them relentlessly, talked with them about these things, argued with them? Yes, I have!

And have any of these things worked to change their behaviors? No, of course not. I cannot change them, and trying to only ends up in frustration, sometimes anger, disappointment for all concerned.

So, what should I do? Who can soften their hearts and make these changes?


God is sovereign, in control of everything, and He does things His way, not my way. I know that He loves me, He loves my children, and He wants the best for us in our relationship with each other.

So, I take my children to God in prayer. God has pointed out and given me insight into my children's faults, almost overwhelmingly. Why? So, that I can endlessly nag them about these things? No, that's not it at all.

It is so I can kneel to Him, bow down to Him, and ask and allow Him to work in my children's lives.

"Confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another......The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much"......James 5:16

"Ask, and it will be given to you, seek, and you will find, knock, and it will be opened for you".........Matthew 7:7

So, I have the 3 specific areas that I am praying for my children. One area is the same for all three of them, and that is:

My Father....You know how much I love you. I praise your name and seek You daily for You to use me. Use me now, Lord!! Let my life be a living example of Jesus so that my children can see You through me. Help me to always have a Christ-like attitude with them so that their hearts will soften towards You, and they will come to You, accept You into their lives so they can truly be free and feel Your ever present joy.

As for 2 other individual areas for each of them:

My son: I pray for confidence in himself. He has been beaten down in his life, made to feel that he is not capable of accomplishing much. I pray that he see and be able to use his full potential.

I pray that he realizes that he is worthy of Your love, worthy of everyone's love, and that he be able to accept himself for who he is, not comparing himself to others.

Daughter #1: I pray for confidence in herself, also. This daughter often comes off as overly confident in order to compensate for her lack of confidence in herself. I pray that she realize that she is indeed a beautiful person, worthy of a loving relationship and stop seeking those who will berate and condemn her.

Daughter #2: Again, confidence in herself and a value of her own self, an increase in her self-esteem. Also, for this daughter, I pray for her acceptance of herself--just as she is--not needing to change herself to please other people.

These areas that I am praying for are not really the things that I nag my children about. In fact, I nag them very rarely. I am praying for changes in the way they view themselves so that they can see they are very worthy people, God's son and daughters--A Prince and Princesses of the King.

I feel that if the viewpoints they have of themselves can be changed, that is the second greatest gift I could pray about for them. They have not had it easy, not one of them--a life of turmoil, hardship, verbal and emotional abuse, seeing me verbally, emotionally and physically abused.

All of this has led them to think less of themselves than they truly are. They are wonderful children, and I love them so much.

The greatest gift that I pray for is, of course, for them to come to Jesus and fully know His love for them--breaking the chains of the past.

And on to Day 17:

Love Promotes Intimacy

"He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.".......Proverbs 17:9

And the dare for this day:

Determine to guard your children's secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or to you) and to pray for them. Talk with your children, and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.



Joyfulsister said...

Hi Beth,
((Hugz)) I am in prayer as well for my daughter. I no longer pray and wait for something to happen, I pray as if it is already done. I have learned to leave her totally in the Lords hands which was not easy cause Mommy wants to always protect and fix everything. But what Joy it is to know God can do a better job than I ever could. My job is to pray her through, and love her through all.I enjoyed reading your post today, and just reading what you've wrote I see the joy that you have been exoeriencing as you go on in your journey.

Hugz Lorie

Peggy said...

Blessings Beth...A difficult task indeed but YOUR LOVE does intercede!I prayed for my response
that you asked know I'm honest & sincere for the good!

Your heart is the heart of a mother!

Of course, praying for your children is a simple and a complex thing...
They are now adults. The dare was a snare...for Papa God...or Jesus to enter their life, clearly is your first interceding for them! But they need to come to Papa through Jesus, as their friend... first because of the concept they may have of a father...or a father's love. You cannot be the father & the mother or make up for the past. It is time to advance forward. So...for me the 3 specific areas was not to be changes in them, because He will work those out in them as He does in us!

Your initial verse from 3 John was an excellent place to start! Your choice to pray for their salvation
was the next very wise & obvious choice! For there is their heart!

If you will permit me, you focused on the 3 areas as being changes. I understand why you chose CONFIDENCE that was a good area for God to WORK in...that's the LOVE DARE!
Where do you desire God to work?
I think to improve your relationship that another one for all of YOU would be HEALING! Yes, Father God...Papa, this blessed family deserves healing from their past & the pain of their past but
the consequences in their lives are
grand! Another area for God to work is in FORGIVENESS...of the same because in the forgiveness comes the healing and better relationship. And from these areas that SPIRITUAL DOORS would open for them and you should pray for good Christian friends & their future marriage partners would be Christians, so you would pray for that person that will enter their life and a READINESS of their hearts for YOU & a Christian person to lead & guide their lives in that direction that they would be mentored & filled with God's mercies & grace as HE surrounds them with the right people to LEAD them into the arms of a Papa that will never betray them, abandon them, deceive them or use them...
that they will meet the Father & receive every portion of HIS LOVE LETTER for their direction & plan & purpose to readjust all those things we want changed...

You are doing so well on this LOVE DARE! Give them each a hug just so you get a big deserve a

I thought about putting this in an email but decided it should be here. Forgive me if you would have preferred this...but I pray that this helps others doing for their adult/children instead of a spouse.
If you want you may reject this or I will delete it(if need be).

Denise said...

Keeping you in my prayers sweetie.

Tiffanie said...

I haven't been on this blog in a LONG while. This is a great post and I am going to check out the other dares. Praying for your children's heart is so big and yes, yet so simple.

I like the idea of thinking about and choosing three specific areas to pray about.

Joining you in prayer...